The Confidence Code: The Science and Art of Self-Assurance---What Women Should Know
Katty Kay, Claire Shipman
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Following the success of Lean In and Why Women Should Rule the World, the authors of the bestselling Womenomics provide an informative and practical guide to understanding the importance of confidence—and learning how to achieve it—for women of all ages and at all stages of their career.
Working women today are better educated and more well qualified than ever before. Yet men still predominate in the corporate world. In The Confidence Code, Claire Shipman and Katty Kay argue that the key reason is confidence.
Combining cutting-edge research in genetics, gender, behavior, and cognition—with examples from their own lives and those of other successful women in politics, media, and business—Kay and Shipman go beyond admonishing women to "lean in."Instead, they offer the inspiration and practical advice women need to close the gap and achieve the careers they want and deserve.
who’ll be sitting in the adjacent cubicle thought about it. Which is why he’s apt to be making $5,000 more than you. A study of recent graduates by Rutgers University confirmed the studies we mentioned in chapter 1. It found that’s the average pay gap between young men and young women in the first five years after college, and it increases over the years because women don’t ask for more money. If we can be so fragile about the prospect of even mildly annoying someone, it’s not surprising we
the women disagreed on which image was sharper, they had to collaborate and agree upon a final answer with their partner. The first group of women was given a testosterone supplement; those in the second weren’t. Go figure—the women on testosterone were both less able to collaborate and wrong more often. The main hormonal driver for women is, of course, estrogen, which promotes very different instincts from testosterone. Estrogen encourages bonding and connection; it supports the part of our
dependent on other people’s praise is a lot more vulnerable than confidence built from our own achievements. Even the most accomplished, beautiful, and celebrated human beings you know don’t get a nonstop stream of compliments and positive feedback. Of course it’s unrealistic to think that concert pianists won’t compare themselves to their peers, but if your confidence comes solely from your rankings, the press reviews of your last concert, and the adoration of your fans, what happens when those
simply unearthed. We tested them and prodded them and ran them through our gauntlet of experts and researchers, until we were certain which rocks were pay dirt. Those became our path to creating confidence—our code—and we’ve boiled it down to the very basics: Think Less. Take Action. Be Authentic. Confidence is within reach. The experience of it can be addictive. And its greatest rewards aren’t fully characterized by workplace achievements or outward success. “I feel fully engaged and
unrealistic self-esteem: David H. Silvera and Charles R. Seger, “Feeling good about ourselves: Unrealistic self-evaluations and their relation to self-esteem in the United States and Norway,” Journal of Cross-Cultural Psychology 35.5 (2004): 571–85. 44 confidence and optimism as closely related: N. Park and C. Peterson, “Positive psychology and character strengths: Its application for strength-based school counseling,” Journal of Professional School Counseling 12 (2008): 85–92; N. Park and C.